Sometimes the best examples of “unexpected” behaviors are provided by members of popular culture. When working with adolescents and teens, I’ve found that using these types of examples in therapy are terrific motivators and keeps our sessions relevant. This past week, I used two examples of “unexpected” behaviors by celebrities to target a gamut of social skills.
The first was the infamous email rant by New York Knicks owner James Dolan (here’s a copy of the emails). After orienting group members to the losing streak and fan frustration surrounding the NBA team, I provided a copy of the email sent by a man who describes himself as a “fan since 1952”. After reading his email we discussed some of the following points:
- What is the tone of the email?
- How does Mr. Bierman feel?
- Do you think that other Knicks fans feel the same?
- Did the email get personal (did Mr. Bierman use bad language or call Mr. Dolan names?)
- How do you think Mr. Dolan felt when he read the email?
- If you were Mr. Dolan, what would you do?
- How do you think Mr. Bierman felt when he read this email?
- Did Mr. Dolan get personal?
- Do you think Mr. Dolan responded too quickly?
- What could Mr. Dolan have done differently?